Relocation ANYWHERE is always scary for any individual, leaving what you know for the unknown isn’t the easiest thing to do. But like everything in life, it’s always easier to handle when its only about you. But as I have learned, and knew from the beginning, it was always about the four of us. Today’s blog post is about wanting the best for your kids when you relocate, because in the end, you want them happy, healthy, and settled in their new lives.
I can’t even tell you the amount of time I have spent thinking about how my kids are doing here. I pray, I hope, and I try to give every decision to God. It is one thing to try and settle yourself and a spouse, but when it’s your kids- it takes on a whole different feel. There is no time to be selfish because how and what they feel with all of this is what matters to me. Granted, I felt the same tug at my heart in Wisconsin, but with the unknowns here it makes everything seem like “high alert” for awhile.
School has started again, and Kyra will soon be starting next week. Another new decision, another new choice. I feel like I have held my breath since I moved here when it comes to the school situations and I am just waiting for the exhale on it all. I won’t be discussing where they attend, but just that Emily seems to be doing much better this year. I feel she just wasn’t ready for it last year, and so Virtual school did serve a purpose for us and the like of other relocators. Nothing made me smile more than seeing her chatting with a new friend yesterday at school…I want this to work so bad.
I am human and I have had those thoughts of “Did I do the right thing moving them here?” Who knows how the other would have panned out, this is the choice we made and we want to stick with it. But who doesn’t want their kids to have big smiles and hear “We love it here!” We do hear that in WDW, because it’s Disney World. But I want them both to feel like FL is home, that they are comfortable in all aspects of their lives here.
In the end, I want them to be happy that they agreed to do this with us. I don’t want them ever to feel like they were forced into it. Yes, we are the adults, but we had endless discussions with them on how this would all go. The realities of new friends, new home, and far away from what they truly knew didn’t hit here until school started last year. We have all shed tears of joy and of sorrow, because for them this was a HUGE step to take in their lives. Craig and I both recognized that for this to all happen they would have to be on board or we wouldn’t even attempt it. But as we all know, agreeing to do something and then actually doing it are two very different things.
My hopes are that Emily has a phenomenal school year and overcomes her shyness with her eye. I want her to become a strong young lady who is not only aware of how far she has come, but what an amazing person she is. I hope that Kyra does well in College and that she keeps her eye on the larger picture, and not the day to day things. Kyra has become an amazing individual and I want her to believe in herself as much as her family does in her. I pray for peace for both of them,
that they can find their place in this new adventure. I love them so much, and I just want them to be ok here.